Pretty faces have always had power.

A beautiful woman can walk into a room and receive attention before she says a single word. People assume things about her. They become more forgiving. They become more interested. They give her opportunities. They compete for her attention.

But beauty can create an illusion.

A man can become so fascinated by a woman’s appearance that he stops observing her behavior.

That is where the problem begins.

This book is about the gap between appearance and behavior.

It is about the games men sometimes refuse to see because they are emotionally invested. It is about attention, validation, boundaries, comparison, desire, competition, commitment, and manipulation.

It is also about men.

Because a woman cannot manipulate a man who refuses to surrender his judgment.

The easiest man to control is the man who desperately wants to be chosen.

He will tolerate disrespect because he is afraid of losing her.

He will ignore contradictions because he thinks her beauty makes her worth more.

He will spend money he doesn’t have.

He will abandon his friends.

He will change his personality.

He will accept behavior he would never accept from another man.

And then he will call it love.

This book is an attempt to look at those situations without romanticizing them.

The message is simple:

Stop being hypnotized by the face. Watch the behavior.